alice mary tate 💕

i hate to say it, but there was 100% a version of me who would have considered a slimming world friendly wedding. can you IMAGINE 😭 thankfully those days are long gone, so our wedding was a real celebration of the food we both love! we served nostalgic snacks (think iced gems, wotsits, pom bears and jammie dodgers) and cocktail tinnies, then ruth’s sister rachel (@thatfoodgirluk) made the most incredible sharing boards with a load of hearty salads and homemade bread baskets 🤤 ruth made shortbread favours with a stamp of our custom jessicawoodhouse portrait (ad pr) and my auntie made our beautiful cake, which we served along with pick n mix, a cheeseboard and a big fruit platter for dessert. it was delicious and so much fun! i can’t believe i didnt get a single picture, but we also ordered a load of pizzas from @theyardharpenden as our evening food 🍕 they were *incredible* — even if we didnt eat ours until 2am when we’d gone back to our airbnb 😅 it was worth the wait though 😍 #weddingfood #weddingfoodideas #foodmemories #foodfreedom #antidietculture #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #riotsnotdiets #intuitiveeating #dietfree

forever grateful to have found someone who loves and celebrates me for exactly who i am 🥹 ruth didn’t want to see my wedding dress before i walked down the aisle, but (mainly due to lack of space to hide them both) she *did* see my evening dress — the one i didn’t change into & ended up wearing to taylor swift — which i described as ‘much more low key’ 😂 so she knew something weird and wonderful was coming, but i still don’t quite think she expected this! huge love to the incredible @dimazbrand for making my dress dreams come true! all i wanted was to look like a cloud of shimmering candy floss and she NAILED that brief 🥰💖 if you’re thinking of wearing something a bit different on your wedding dress, this is your sign to use it as an opportunity to let your imagination run wild! 🫶🏻 #queerwedding #wlwwedding #alternativewedding #alternativeweddingdress #rainbowwedding #pastelwedding #customweddingdress #diywedding #weddingfashion 📸 @michaelpearsonl

if i needed any more proof that spring truly is my season, this outfit was it 🧺🌸 ☀️ undies: @monki ☀️ shorts: @primark (i sized up and LOVE the fit of these, though i could have bought my normal size! obsessed with the relaxed fit 🥰) ☀️ top: @asos via @vinted (bought at the end of last summer and only managed to wear it once!! so happy it’s warm enough to get it out again! 💐) ☀️ earrings: @wynterstudiodesign 🍄 ☀️ shirt: @vinted ☀️ bag: @primark ☀️ sunnies: @topshop ☀️ clip: @hm #plussizeootd #springfashion #pasteloutfit #plussizestyle #stylenotsize #uksize18 #size18style #bodyimage #riotsnotdiets #antidiet #foodfreedom

sometimes i only get through the basics, but anything’s better than getting overwhelmed by all the steps and achieving nothing at all! (nothing at all… nothing at all…) p.s. if you get this reference ^ we can be best friends ⛷️ #everythingshower #overwhelmed #adhdproblems #neurodivergent #brainhacks #adhdtips #dopaminedressing

everyone kept telling me it wasn’t going to work miracles, but i’m not going to lie, it sort of feels like it is! obviously i haven’t been taking it for long, and i still need to see how it works during the rest of my luteal phase — but so far so good and i’m pleased to say the side effects have been minimal and manageable 🤞🏻🩷 i’ll be answering a little q&a on my stories later on, so feel free to pop any questions in the comments and i’ll include as many as i can 🥰 also will save everything to a highlight, so if you’re coming to this later you should be able to find it! happy sunday beautiful people, i’m so glad you’re here to share this journey with me 🩷🩷 #adhd #adhdmedication #elvanse #vyvanse #adhdproblems #adhdawareness #adhdwomen

jumping on this cute lil trend (based on a beautiful poem originally by @jennaececelia) and feeling uncharacteristically vulnerable so please be nice 😂 my early 20s were a complicated and difficult time. i was heavily self-medicating and convincing myself (and everyone around me) that i was happy and everything was fine, when in reality i was stressed, miserable and using every destructive coping strategy in the book 🤪 thankfully things turned around, but not before they got a *whole* lot worse..! i’m proud of my younger self for figuring it out eventually 🩷

if you’re not using your wedding as an excuse to take dopamine dressing to the next level, you’re doing it wrong hun 💖 there’s been a little flurry of activity on my wedding posts, so i thought i’d throw it back to the best day of my life — along with some of my favourite outfits from 2024 🌸 and if you’re new here, welcome!!! #weddingdress #alternativeweddingdress #dopaminedressing #pastelfashion #size18style #summerwedding #queerwedding

i’m tired, so here’s a two word explanation for every photo of my uncharacteristically busy january 💖 1. hot springs 🇪🇸 2. snowy swims ❄️ 3. new trainers 👟 4. making friends 🐈 5. spanish supermarket!! 🥘 6. setting off ⛰️ 7. halfway there 8. made it! 9. baza bevs 🍹 10. marketplace bargain 11. breakfast goals 12. auntie duties 13. wrong turn 😅 14. new start 💊 15. TITANIQUE FINALLY 💙 16. lilac sequins ✨ 17. chinese karaoke 🎤 18. brunch gremlin 🥞 19. handsome boy 🐱 💖

i finally got hold of my elvanse prescription and today i took my first 30mg dose! 💊 in the words of our lord and saviour taylor swift, “it’s been a long time coming” — i was diagnosed TWO WHOLE YEARS AGO, and it’s taken this long to access medication due to the shortages and lack of NHS provision for titration. but it’s finally happened, and here’s what i’ve experienced on day 1: 💖 SO. MUCH. QUIET. like, what do you mean i can think about one thing at a time or sometimes even nothing at all?! 💖 things that would usually send me into complete and utter overwhelm have just felt… normal and manageable. i was able to prioritise work tasks without any issues, even when unexpected curveballs came my way! 💖 for the first time ever, i’ve been able to pick up my phone and reply to a few messages without getting distracted, opening apps i hadn’t planned to open or doomscrolling — and when i did have a little scroll, i gave a few videos my full attention and then went back to my day?!?! 💖 i can read SO much faster and didn’t have to stop and re-read paragraphs over and over again because i’d zoned out halfway through! 💖 my emotions have felt stable and regulated, with an overall sense of calm — kind of sounds counterintuitive considering it’s a stimulant medication, but i’m so chilled out! 💖 i’m not sure how to explain this one, but time has passed at a normal pace! usually my days either whizz by in what feels like seconds or drag on forever, but today has felt exactly the correct length 😅 💖 in terms of any side effects, i’ve had a bit of a dry mouth and i’ve been slightly less hungry than normal, but i’ve had a good sized breakfast and lunch so i’m not worried about that at all 🥰 obviously this is just day one and i’m aware more side effects can surface over time, but i’m so pleased with my experience so far 🩷 i even had a little cry because i genuinely had NO idea i’d ever be able to feel like this 🥹 just a note that i’m not a medical professional and this is all just based on my personal journey, but i’m happy to answer any questions if i can 🥰🥰 xxxx #adhdmedication #elvanse #adhdwomen #adhdsupport #postyourpill

a bit of inspiration for your weekly food shop 💖 since a few people have asked, i try to add extra protein with things like cottage cheese because it’s recommended for my adhd and pcos — especially at breakfast! i don’t think i can cope with it in my scrambled eggs though, it’s not a texture i enjoy 😅 #foodshop #mealideas #breakfastideas #lunchideas #gentlenutrition #intuitiveeating #pcosfood #adhdmeals #pickyplate #pickylunch #whatiate

i’d LOVE to be able to take credit for this, but ruth showed me a reel by another creator and now i can’t find it to tag them! if anyone knows who did it first, let me know 🩷 i bought these bracelets on ebay, but honestly i wish i’d used some of my leftover eras tour beads to make them myself — that would be CUTE (not to mention cheap and sustainable, but i didn’t have the idea until literally now so i’m telling you instead 😂) now i just need to remind myself that this only works when i actually put the bracelets on — annoyingly i can’t really make one for that task..! let me know what would be on your bracelets 🩷🩷 #adhdhacks #adhdbracelets #taskbracelets #chorebracelets #adhdroutine #adhdwomen

the goochiest of gooch weeks, new year & a lil bit of jan 🦢 also the last pic might be my favourite photo i’ve ever taken! i feel like i want to paint it 🤩