Tiffany-Nicole Thomas

I miss my LoverGirl posts… so I decided it was time to get back to it… sometimes I be needing an outlet from the heavy shit… and trust me, the HealHER space gets h e a v y … sometimes what I really need is a space where I can just thrive in my softness… and truly be the minimalistic chic, hopeless romantic, perfume + playlist loving girly girl that I am. some days all I want to do with my online community is share my Pinterest Wedding Mood Board and my wild ass dating experiences 🫠 and show yall the beautiful flowers I found at the farmers market and listen to you all share your LoverGirl stories… and stay at home wife/mom stories… because I love those things too… because at the end of the day, I’m just a girl… a girl who loves love… and romance… and jewelry… and glitter… and good food… and seeing other people happy… but my most favorite thing to see is women being given the space to be the delicate flowers that they are… this summa my only goal and intention is to have the summer of 24 be the kickoff to one of the best summers I’ve had in a really long time… a summer full of vibrancy… and jazz filled nights… and stolen moments… and lots and lots of love and new healed and healthy romance… because if you’ve been following me from the beginning then you know this page came to be because of a breakup…. and you also know I’m knocking on year 5 of being single and celibate and truth is I’m mf tiiieeeeeddddd 😮‍💨😫😭 so I gotta make room for the things I want to see blossom in my life.. so while I will be active on my HealHER page, but @thelovergirllanediaires page is going to get me just a little more… because that’s where I want to because unlike Donell Jones, I know what I want 😉 but in the meantime let’s all use this post to touch + agree: we’re meeting our husbaes (or wifebaes bc you know I am a 🏳️‍🌈 ally) this summa… so InstaCousins, cheers to a soft life and an even softer love 💕 and if you’ve already found your person, please do share with the class- how does it feel to be one of God’s favorites and favored (cries in Tyrese) ps: this is also your reminder to go revisit #kennylattimore catalog, cuz that man be saaanngggiinng 🤌🏾

I mean of course I want all the beautiful, romantic things and don’t forget the flowers, Bookie

Say it with me: “I am worth it. All.Of.It. I am worth the commitment I am worth the time I am worth the dedication I am worth the investment I am worthy of pouring into… and I am deserving of having others who appreciate what I do and bring to the table, pour and sew into me.” and that’s just what it is. you should never have to explain that. and you damn sure better NEVER EVER forget that. Even if “they” don’t see the value of and in you, that’s fine, bc as long as YOU do, that’s all that really matters. That’s what you move on. That, is what you stand on!

random musings onna monday… ft one of my favorite songs that has absolutely nothing to do with anything related to this thread… enjoy. +happy new week 🌻

I told you, we’ll always have Sunday… and I meant it. lately, I’ve been having to turn down the noise, and sometimes the noise is social media. to know me is to know that I am a fully transparent person. very much an open book, and whether im up or down, I will always tell the truth… I am not too proud to admit that sometimes this chamber of highs can feel a bit daunting, especially when you’re not as far in your journey as you’d like to be. and for me, I feel like I can go a bit further. I talk a lot about divine timing but I’m also human and I want what I want, and I too can get wrapped up in that joy snatcher called “comparison” especially in spaces such as this… and when that happens, there are two things I must do 1. check that shit as soon as it rises and be honest about the work (or lack thereof) I may or may not have 🤭 put in and b. ask myself “Well if the concept of time doesn’t exist in your world, why are you so pressed about a timeline? Or could it be that you do believe in “time” you just want to be in *control* of “your time?” and that’s when I have to go write it down so I can bring it up in my next therapy session, bc 😵‍💫 nonetheless, though, I’ve been taking my time to really figure out if I’m helping, hurting, or delaying my progress, and that is some uncomfortable shit to sit in and with… but the (self) work isn’t always pretty, easy, or fun. sometimes I wish my self-care Sundays were a day filled with just 🫧 bubble baths and candles and my head off in the clouds daydreaming, but I also know that that can’t always be the case.. sometimes self-care looks a lot like self-accountability and having hard, yet gentle conversations with yourself (because yes, language matters, even during self-talks) all in all, though, I had to remind myself that while yes, the calendar might say the year is closing out, that doesn’t however mean that the year has been wasted or that I’ve failed. there’s still time. and I still have options. and that means I still have a chance. lean into that. take hold of that. and use it to your advantage. and now im telling you the same. I hope you all have the most beautiful week. love y’all.

another Sunday means another chance for us to sit in all of the goodness and favor we’ve been shown. while recentering… and realigning… and fine tuning. you know, last week I hit every single one of my goals, and that shiiitttt felt soooo good 😭 it’s also really big for me because I have the tendency to be a bit of procrastinator, mainly because in my world the concept of “time” doesn’t exist 🤭 it took me speaking to a human design coach to helped me understand why that is and baby was it game changing and so reaffirming… bc for a second I thought I was crazy 🙃but it also helped me understand the types of environments and spaces my HD type thrives in, which also is something I’ve been sitting with bc it truly does change the logistics of the way my life is presently set up… but that’s a story for another day. anyway- it this made me think about how as we get closer to the end of the year we’ll start to see more content and adds etc centered us finishing the year “strong” and closing out goals. which can sometimes be a bit overwhelming for some. but im here to remind you that divine timing is perfect timing. so if your goals and dreams need a little bit more time, that is perfectly okay. you didn’t fail. you didn’t miss the mark. and you damn sure didn’t miss any opportunities that were meant for you. continue giving yourself grace and space, because we need both. burn out is real. plus where tf are you rushing to anyway? and why? baby steps are ok too. and they will get you to exactly where you need to be, and trust- you WILL be on time. late bloomers matter too. and our stories are just as beautiful. and meaningful. and just as powerful. have the most amazing week, cousins. love yall. 🌸

new month… is that you Miss girrrrrllllll?? and not only did you show up, you brought Sunday with you too?! sounds like you know how to show a girl a good time if you ask me 😏 no but seriously. I am amazed at how fast this year flew by… and while I could easily talk about all the ways I’ve fallen short, I’ve decided against that. instead I will be breathing life into all areas and spaces of my life. remember- that’s water under the bridge, and my main focus is making it to the other side, where the beautiful things are. Sunday is always my day of resetting and recentering and this Sunday shall be no different. in fact, I am going to follow mother nature’s lead and go inward. I will be moving slowly… and spending time doing the things that fill me with joy. my body will be my compass… and my wellness will be the epicenter. I’ve given everyone a lot of me this year, and now I must return the favor, to myself. so if im not as active don’t worry. I just have a long over due date with Tiffany. but I will always welcome a check in DM or text from my instacousins… but please always remember, we will ALWAYS have Sundays. because they are ours. forever and always. piny promise 🫶🏾💕 Love yall.

i would never miss an opportunity to tell you all how much i love yall down… and i can truly say, i am so much better because this space, and spaces like this exist… I had no idea that 4 years ago, that I would help cultivate such a beautiful, safe and FULL space. this space is filled with and fueled by the deepest love. this space has saved my life. I had no idea that through my own healing, I would help others with theirs, too. HealHER has become soul food. and I couldn’t be more proud… or happy… for thankful. Happy Thanksgiving. and thank you all so so much. like fr fr. I love yall. deep. xx Tiffany

Happy Sunday cousins… I wish I had something long and beautiful to say… but for the past week, I feel like I’ve just been holding my breath… for various reasons… but mainly because I felt like the very second I paused… and exhaled… and acknowledged all that’s happened, I’d feel far too many things I honestly didn’t, and still don’t, want to feel… but the feelings have to go somewhere… that’s one of my personal and favorite mantras… because it’s true… I absolutely hate harboring emotions… the good and the bad… whatever I feel, I do whatever I can to express it outwardly, and I think it’s one of the key things that has been my saving grace… along with the safeness of Sundays… so that is my priority for the first half of this week… to unpack, honor and send whatever these big and not so good feelings are, on their way … so that I can fully lean into the spirit of gratitude… and hope… and fullness. I hope you all have an amazing, full week, and a beautiful holiday. Also, sending love to those grieving this holiday season. whether it’s your first season of “firsts” without or your third, such as myself, just know, I am holding your hand. Love yall. 💙

we’ve made it to another Sunday. praise God. this week I want to honor the season, by moving at her pace… I want to take my time to marvel at the beauty… and bask in the sweetness… and savor all of the goodness, God has blessed me with... in all areas of my life… even the ones that need a little work. this week I am choosing to see the good.. and the light.. and the potential… because maybe the rose colored lenses aren’t so bad after all. love yall. 🌹❤️

it’s Thursday… so that means a little this mixed with a little bit of that… and a Janet classic (if it’s not on your playlist you know I’m giving you the side eye, right 🙃) jk.. kinda today’s post follows no rhyme… or reason… just vibes… and intentions… and things I think make for good reminders… Have an amazing day Cousins. Love yall.

“what if the rose colored lens aren’t so bad after all?” that was my morning thought… I’m still sitting with it but it’s definitely something I want to explore more at a later date… or in my therapy session later on today. I hope my good sis has her book ready bc baaaabbbyyyy the way im finna be in there carrying on tuhdaaaaayyy whew 😮‍💨 for now, I wanted to share these… because maybe I had my rose colored glasses on when I wrote them… and just didn’t know it… but during times of uncertainty I gotta be honest, the optimism, and the audacity to believe things are always working out in and for the good of me and my community is what keeps me going (that and a healthy sprinkle of delusion of course 🙃) I mean just think about it… that what the (rose) lenses represent anyway… but anyhoo… Happy Tuesday Cousins. remember- deep inhales . and even deeper exhales. I hope you all have the most amazing day. Love yall.